The written Post from Jan 31, 2019
For the past 2 years, I have been blessed to support individuals to Live Strong & Authentic Lives through my private Life Coaching Practice. I am also honoured to have spent over 20 years training volunteers and working frontline on distress lines and victim services.
Things have not always been as good as they are today. As a youth, I never felt like I fit. As an empath living in a family that I interpreted as being “emotionally constipated”, I sought the affection, attention and recognition that I could not feel at home. I had been cheated on by mates and was looking for guarantees. Then I found a young man who showed all signs of loyalty and his family and religious congregation welcomed me with open arms and loads of attention. I thought I had found the answer and all I had to do was reject my old life and embrace this new faith and lifestyle.
As you can probably guess this bright and shiny jewel turned out to be polished glass. Over time I realized how much of myself I had lost and the suppression became suffocating. No matter how hard I tried to be what they wanted me to be, it was never enough. I was even blamed for others indiscretions! My marriage was deteriorating in front of my eyes and without an education and my child depending on me, I had to do something!
I remember that day vividly. I was in the kitchen and had a glass visions pot in my hand full of spaghetti sauce. I was in a heated discussion with my husband. I quickly turned and crashed the pot on the counter as I screamed “ENOUGH”. It was not only enough to the marriage but also to the life I had been living. It meant everything would change. That day I lost my community, my surrogate mother (my mother-in-law) and my faith. Just like the visions pot, I had to pick up the pieces, clean up the mess and start again.
It took a while, but everything turned around for me after that pivotal point. With the help and support of mentors and coaches, I finished my honours degree in Psychology with two unofficial minors in Women’s Studies and Theology. I completed my solution-focused coach training and certification through the International Coaching Federation and started my private practice. Through my own self-development, I was finally able to see and accept the love and attention from my family!
So why am I passionate about the work I do. I know how immobilizing it is to live a life that is not my own and then to be shunned for choosing a life that is mine. Everyone has a unique gift to give to this world and it not possible to share that when we are stuck in fear, guilt and shame. I know YOU have something to offer once you have healed the pain and uncovered your life purpose. Many people that seek my services have felt the intense pain of shunning from their family, friends and community. In response to this, I have created a Free 30 minute Reclaim Your Power Strategy Session that I will be offering to 20 people in over the next 90 days. During this confidential time together, I will help you get crystal clear about where you are now in your recovery journey, where you want to be and that vision you want for yourself in the future. I will give you some powerful information to get you closer to the life of joy and connection you want.
So … Will you hold this vision for 20 individuals sharing in this gift?
If you know of anyone who is struggling with the effects of shunning or in building a new life, will you share this post with them? I would love to offer them this gift of Reclaim Your Power Strategy Session.